Saturday, February 26, 2011

I don't want to leave my baby, so what?

I constantly hear people saying how important it is to have a "date night" with your husband or "get a break" from your children. While I don't judge people who do and I can understand why they would, it just doesn't feel natural to my husband or I to leave her...

Yes, I think that if we left her in the nursery at church she would survive and most definitely have fun with the kids and part of me does feel guilty for not letting her go play with them, but she has fun singing and dancing with us in church during the service and we love watching her have fun. It would just go against my instincts to just let her go in there with people who I barely know.

I'm sure she would survive and have tons of fun and bonding time if we left her with Grandma or Auntie for a few hours while Daddy and I went on a date but to be honest, we think we have more fun WITH her than we would without her. Maybe it's because we don't have the desire to do anything that she can't do with us anyway, like go to bars for example. Even before we had kids we never went out and partied or anything, it's just not our thing. Again, before anyone misunderstands me I have to say that I do not judge people who do like to go out and party. I think it's great when people do the things that make themselves happy. That is just not "our thing." Like I was saying, before Juliette we were always doing kid friendly things. We always had a kid or 2 with us on the weekends. We loved spending time with our niece, nephew, little cousins, and my little brother, plus it gave us an "excuse" to go the the zoo, park, or chuckecheese!

Just last night my husband half jokingly said to me "I'm such a loser babe, I have no friends." I laughed and said "My internet Mommy friends and I talk about that all the time, you're not a loser, you're a responsible Father." In my eyes he's not a loser, he's an AMAZING dedicated father and husband. I'm tearing up just thinking about it. Juliette is SO incredibly lucky to have a Father like him. He's the male version of me. We think so much alike when it comes to parenting. Everything he does, he does for us. I always knew he'd be a great father but I don't know if he would have the strong bond that he has with her if it weren't for the fact that we bed-share/co-sleep. I really think that just like breastfeeding created an amazing bond for Juliette and I, that the closeness, relaxing quiet time, and cuddling that they get from co-sleeping created an amazing, one of a kind, lifetime bond for them. I'm so grateful that we made the decision to co-sleep. I used to be a anti co-sleeping nazi and I used to rag on my sister for doing it with my newborn niece
(sorry sis!) -I feel really guilty about that. All I had ever heard about co-sleeping was that it's dangerous and kills babies. Which is ridiculous and I'll have to blog about that sometime. This blog isn't supposed to be about co-sleeping, but I think it's one of the reasons we're so attached to her and don't want to leave her.
So the bottom line is, we like having her around. Just because you and your husband feel like you need a date night, doesn't mean that we all do. To each their own is my motto! I don't think it's hurting Juliette or our marriage.
Does anyone else understand us and what I'm trying to say?

Sunday, February 20, 2011

It all makes sense now!

Well not everything but one thing that I always wondered makes complete sense to me now. I always wondered why even partially clothed women in Ethiopian tribes always had their breasts exposed. Well now that I'm the mother of a nursing toddler I completely understand! Easy access!!!
I'm not one to complain about breastfeeding, put my daughter on a feeding schedule, or restrict her feedings but lately I've just been feeling like --if I have to pull my shirt/shirts and bra up/down and pull my boob out one more time JUST to stuff my ginormous boob back in my bra, put it back nicely in it's place, readjust my bra and shirt/shirts only to have her frantically and urgently sign "milk" in my face while kicking and whining two minutes later and repeat the process all throughout the day, I'm gonna lose it! Why even bother wearing a shirt? Why don't I just walk around shirtless so you can snack all day long? Would that please you Ms. Juliette? You do realize I'm a human being with feelings and not just a milk machine right?? haha! I don't know what is up with her lately.. Growth spurt? Teething?? I offer her water and coconut milk throughout the day too. She just loves her boob juice and thats ok with me! I just wish I didn't have to wear a shirt or a bra ;) The Ethiopians are smart people!
Anyone know what I'm talking about or is it just me??

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

We made the cheap and easy switch to unpaper towels!


Finally! I cloth diaper, use cloth wipes and I've been wanting to un papertowel for a long time now especially since reading this informative blog post from Job Description: Mommy.
I have to say I can't believe how cheap and easy it is! At Walmart I got about 3 packs of 6 microfiber "bar mops" for about $3.00-4.00 per pack and one pack of 18 cotton wash cloths for $3.00!! Plus the 3 bins that you see in the picture for about $3-4 for the 3 pack! I keep the microfiber ones on the left, the cotton ones in the middle, and the dirty ones on the right. Then I just throw the dirty ones in with the diry towels or other dirty laundry. Easy peasy & MUCH greener! :)
So if you want to help keep 3,000 tons of paper towels PER DAY out of landfills, you should try it and let me know if you do! Blog about it or at least post on your facebook about it to try to get others to try it too!

Friday, February 11, 2011

Breastfeeding is so obscene, you can't even tell I'm doing it!


Juliette got hungry at Target the other day and I snapped this picture as we walked past the mirror. I walked around Whole Foods on Valentines day nursing her like this too! In the beginning of our breastfeeding journey I never thought that this would be me! Proud to be nursing in public! A toddler no less!!! I thought I would hide in the house or in the car WITH a blanket over her head to breastfeed. Then thanks to support pages like The Leaky Boob . I quickly realized that breastfeeding isn't something I should be ashamed of. I shouldn't have to go hide in a bathroom and miss out on dinner or a get together with friends and family because my daughter needs to eat dinner herself. Not only that but the way us "exhibitionists" see it is that the more people who see us breastfeeding in public the more it normalizes nursing in public and the more women will hopefully get over their fear of breastfeeding in public and try harder to breastfeed!
A lot of women give up just because they are afraid to breastfeed in public and that's really sad.

Breastfeeding is the most unnatural natural thing. Before I had Juliette I had never even seen another woman breastfeed. If it weren't for the internet I don't know what I would have done because I had NO support breastfeeding while pregnant or after giving birth except for the lactation consultant who popped her head in to see if I needed help breastfeeding the day AFTER she was born. At that point I could have already given her like 6 bottles of formula! If it weren't for the internet and other Moms I met online, I would most likely go with the norm in the society I was raised in and bottle feed. Which is why I personally think it's important to breastfeed in public, talk about breastfeeding in public, and post pictures of breastfeeding in public.

Like I said, I never thought this would be me. When I was pregnant I thought I would breastfeed for 6 months and go back to work! Ha! Now that I've done quite a bit of research on the subject and I know the benefits, I plan on letting her wean herself when she is ready. I'm not ashamed to say I breastfeed a toddler!

Monday, February 7, 2011

Toddler eating habits-nugget recipe

Juliette eating (all organic) black beans, goat cheese, blueberries, & avocado for lunch.

Lately, a lot of people have been commenting on what a good eater Juliette is and how picky their toddlers are and I feel lucky. Although I know that could change tomorrow. She actually loves to eat healthy foods. She would much rather eat any green veggie over an animal cracker or an oatmeal cookie.

I found a recipe for broccoli and cheese nuggets on wholesomebabyfood.com once and ever since I have been using it to make all different kinds of nuggets. I've made broccoli, spinach, and cheese nuggets, salmon, potato, cheese, peas, & carrots nuggets, haddock, sweet potato, and spinach nuggets, you get the hint... I always add some molasses for extra iron and flax seeds for fiber and omegas. Then I freeze them in a freezer bag and reheat in the oven or toaster oven as needed (you can also use a microwave if you chose to). Juliette loves them.
Just thought I'd share!
-Not So Average, Hippie Mommy