I constantly hear people saying how important it is to have a "date night" with your husband or "get a break" from your children. While I don't judge people who do and I can understand why they would, it just doesn't feel natural to my husband or I to leave her...
Yes, I think that if we left her in the nursery at church she would survive and most definitely have fun with the kids and part of me does feel guilty for not letting her go play with them, but she has fun singing and dancing with us in church during the service and we love watching her have fun. It would just go against my instincts to just let her go in there with people who I barely know.
I'm sure she would survive and have tons of fun and bonding time if we left her with Grandma or Auntie for a few hours while Daddy and I went on a date but to be honest, we think we have more fun WITH her than we would without her. Maybe it's because we don't have the desire to do anything that she can't do with us anyway, like go to bars for example. Even before we had kids we never went out and partied or anything, it's just not our thing. Again, before anyone misunderstands me I have to say that I do not judge people who do like to go out and party. I think it's great when people do the things that make themselves happy. That is just not "our thing." Like I was saying, before Juliette we were always doing kid friendly things. We always had a kid or 2 with us on the weekends. We loved spending time with our niece, nephew, little cousins, and my little brother, plus it gave us an "excuse" to go the the zoo, park, or chuckecheese!
Just last night my husband half jokingly said to me "I'm such a loser babe, I have no friends." I laughed and said "My internet Mommy friends and I talk about that all the time, you're not a loser, you're a responsible Father." In my eyes he's not a loser, he's an AMAZING dedicated father and husband. I'm tearing up just thinking about it. Juliette is SO incredibly lucky to have a Father like him. He's the male version of me. We think so much alike when it comes to parenting. Everything he does, he does for us. I always knew he'd be a great father but I don't know if he would have the strong bond that he has with her if it weren't for the fact that we bed-share/co-sleep. I really think that just like breastfeeding created an amazing bond for Juliette and I, that the closeness, relaxing quiet time, and cuddling that they get from co-sleeping created an amazing, one of a kind, lifetime bond for them. I'm so grateful that we made the decision to co-sleep. I used to be a anti co-sleeping nazi and I used to rag on my sister for doing it with my newborn niece
(sorry sis!) -I feel really guilty about that. All I had ever heard about co-sleeping was that it's dangerous and kills babies. Which is ridiculous and I'll have to blog about that sometime. This blog isn't supposed to be about co-sleeping, but I think it's one of the reasons we're so attached to her and don't want to leave her.
So the bottom line is, we like having her around. Just because you and your husband feel like you need a date night, doesn't mean that we all do. To each their own is my motto! I don't think it's hurting Juliette or our marriage.
Does anyone else understand us and what I'm trying to say?